Sandra M. Lopes


About Sandra M. Lopes

I'm a crossdresser with a smoking fetishism.


Time for a conceptual change…

For the past decade, I have struggled with my ‘schizophrenic’ Internet presence. On one hand, I have long ago started to blog about crossdressing and transgender/gender non-conforming issues, moving on to (allegedly) serious essays on those subjects. But on the other hand, the first encouragement and support — if I […]


Washing a human hair wig — my Nth technique!

It’s time to switch to a more frivolous activity: how to get your wig properly washed! If you have been following my blog from the very first post, you’ll know by now that, over the years, I have changed the technique of washing my wig, and all that depending on […]


I have a dream…

Two decades ago or so, I used to have so-called ‘crossdressing vacations’. These were quite short, normally just 5 days or so, at some remote place where nobody knew me, and where I could indulge myself in doing as much crossdressing as I wanted. Unfortunately, back then, I really had […]


No, you will *not* become a woman!

Remember that saying? If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then it probably is a duck. — The Duck Test You all know this classic example of inductive reasoning: based on a series of observed characteristics, we assume the most plausible explanation […]


Decision time, and it’s anything but easy…

If you’re a frequent reader of my blog, you know that usually describe myself as a ‘failed transexual’ in the sense that, years ago, I simply gave up on any dreams of transition because it would make my life hopelessly more complicated (it’s already complicated by itself, I don’t really […]


Wishful thinking for 2017 2

I’ve been a bit late in adding my usual post with an evaluation of the past year and the wishes for the upcoming year. Hopefully you will forgive me the delay; in any case, I guess I have far less to report than I thought last year…


How can you be so sure? 1

Imagine the following scenario: you have an itch on one of your toes, and, without ever entering a doctor’s office and asking for an opinion, you are absolutely sure that you have to amputate your toe. In fact, you are thoroughly convinced that there are only three choices for you: either […]


Reverse Cross-Gender Behaviour

A recent interview made on local TV to a trans woman, with a subsequent discussion on many different social networks populated by transgender people, as well as a conversation with my wife, made me realise how often the social behaviour of transgender people does not correspond to the gender they affirm […]


Another Crazy Thursday… ending in a thunderstorm and confusion

As I write these lines, two groups of my friends are out and having fun. Some went to a restaurant for a birthday party; some went to the theatre watch a play; and some of each group, afterwards, will get together at an esplanade by the river. That picture of […]


Excitement is not always eroticism!

There is a worrying trend that I have been noticing among those blogs who have been promoting alternative explanations to what we crossdreaming transgender people actually feel: Freudian-inspired, as well as inspired by Blanchard and friends, they attribute far too much importance to sexual excitement when MtF transgender people merely […]