Jack is knowingly lying, because he like Felix, is an individual who is solely interested in affirming the idea of his inner femaleness, which he is emotionally attached to. The fetish isn’t anything to do with archetypal female sexuality (whether or not it makes senses to postulate any such sexuality beyond androphilia). The fetish is rather constituted in sexual arousal by the masochistic anxiety in the ways in which one can be associated to symbols of emasculation.

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Clothes aren’t a magical property that induces sexual arousal on contact, but sexual arousal is achieved in the ways on associates oneself to the wearing of such clothing.

It isn’t that the fetishist is sexually aroused by males, but by the very idea of himself being associated to the very idea of being aroused by males, of making love to males, even the very idea of liking it. The “faceless man”? A “man” only has to be present in a fantasy in so far that the symbolism of emasculation is achieved (it doesn’t matter what he looks like, what is important is the emasculating idea of oneself being fucked).

I suggest that you publish this post (in combination with others, perhaps) into an ebook and publish it on Amazon and elsewhere. The text is long, and is more suited to a more focused reading than the blog format allows for.

You have already referred to my comments on Felix’ book (a book I enjoyed immensely).

I will make one additional point based on one of your paragraphs. You write:

“Women don’t get excited when they see themselves on the mirror. They might, of course, realize that they will be attractive to men in this or that outfit; they might appreciate how great they look; or simply how well a dress fits them; and so forth. But their self-image never turns them on. (Similarly, heterosexual males will not get turned on by their self-image on the mirror).”

I agree with much of what you say, but I doubt that this is true. I find the evolutionary idea that men and women are primarily triggered by visual clues in others to bee too narrow.

A healthy sexual relationship between two persons consists of much more, the most important thing being reciprocal affirmation. You get turned on because the other person gets turned on by you. Desire breeds desire. This is why confirmation of the other person’s sexiness works so well during lovemaking: “You are sexy”, “you turn me on”, “you are beautiful” and so on and so forth.

I know that the stereotypes say that this focus on verbal affirmation is a female trait, and that men do not need this kind of sex talk. I doubt that, but it does not matter much anyway, because in this case the MTF crossdreamers feel like a woman.

There is a huge industry devoted to the feminization of women (clothing, make-up, perfume) and the masculinization of men (training, proteins, hormones, steroids, cars). Women try to look beautiful not only to attract men, but be accepted by other women, AND to feel good about themselves. As some transgender women has pointed out: Autogynephilia in cis women simply means “I feel sexy”. And feeling sexy is a good thing.

Many MTF crossdreamers will often find it impossible to get this kind of affirmation, as they are normally affirmed as men, not as women. They do not feel sexy as men. Whatever their partner tells them about how attractive they are, it will not work. They want to feel sexy as women. I suspect this is the main reason they turn in on their fantasies, and find it hard to establish a “normal” sexual relationship with a woman, and not that there is any kind of “erotic target location error.”

I would love to hear more about what kind of affirmation MTF crossdressers get from having sex with men though, given that many of them are primarily attracted to women.

Regarding the ideas and your representation of them in your post, it shows quite a disappointing lack of awareness of the online discourse and understanding of this phenomenon. A common masochistic emasculation fetish (sexual imprint), and the propensity for sexual desires to influence often, profound, transformative emotional attachments.